I was once a young woman who was approached by many men, mostly older men and I was enamored by the attention given to me.
I had very low self-esteem and did not see why men would even talk to me.
I allowed myself into situations that were beyond my understanding for the sake of some compliments and attention.
As an adult, I have been to many places in my life and been in various stages of disrepair. I wish I had someone to guide me through the everyday struggle.
The following are some things I wish people had told me about life.
Stop allowing others to quantify your self-worth.
You are more than the sum of your looks.
Stop basing your value on the number of people that are attracted to you.
Quit looking for attention from others who are only interested in being involved in physical relations.
Stop concerning yourself with nonfactor individuals.
Stop worrying about why others do not feel the same way! You can’t control their feelings only understand they don’t feel the same and leave it alone knowing they are missing out not you.
Those who would make you feel bad about being you are not mature enough to appreciate who you are.
Live your life the way you want instead of the way society wants you to. But know that unique people are always scrutinized for bucking the system!
Your beauty should begin with being a great person not as an addition!
Be strong when it’s hard to be right!
If its easy, it probably isn’t worth the effort!
Don’t discount the words of women who have been there, are there or have witnessed it personally.
Stop thinking people are trying to spoil your fun and try to understand they don’t want to see you make the mistakes they have.
Above all else, value yourself more than you value any individual!
Candi, A Grown Ass Black Woman