We live in a world where there are more divorces than successful marriages, more break ups than happy relationships and more unhappy singles than joyful couples. We’ve traded intimacy and sharing with one partner for quickies and superficial exchanges with multiple partners.
Sites like Tinder encourage quick meetups and people choose who to go out with based on a small blurb on a website. No wonder why people have bitter and unfulfilled relationships!
The truth of the matter is that you must know your own self-worth before choosing a partner. This applies in two ways. Firstly, you need to understand that you are worthy of a partner who will treat you right.
There are millions of women in abusive relationships, but they stay on because of the occasional tidbit of love and attention that is thrown their way by their partner. They cling on to these little gestures while ignoring the fact that they are subjected to either emotional or physical abuse constantly.
It all comes down to how you view yourself. What is your self-worth?
If you feel like you’re unworthy of love, you’ll be grateful for any little bit of love or kindness that is shown your way. Having a partner (even if he or she is an abusive one) will seem better than having no partner at all.
Your sense of self needs to be better. You MUST understand that you deserve better and can get better. So many women feel trapped in a relationship and don’t leave because they fear being alone or not being able to get better.
What they don’t realize is that they can never find better unless they leave the current toxic relationship they’re in. You can only sail to new lands if you’re willing to lose sight of the shore.
Make a list of all the qualities you want to see in your potential partner. Know what you want and tell yourself that you deserve to be treated well. You do not have to be in a relationship when you’re constantly unhappy.
On the flip side, one also needs to be realistic when looking for a mate. There are thousands of women who post on their profiles a list of criteria that their partner should meet.
He needs to be over six feet, have good credit, great job, not stay with his mama and look better than a Kofi Siriboe. Yet, if you looked at the women’s profile, she is probably a single mom with 3 kids, living with her mama with only a medicaid card to her name.
Her demands are high, but she brings nothing to the table. In most cases, she will not find a partner who gives her the time of day and end up blaming it on bad luck.
The key to getting the partner you deserve is to also be someone who is deserving of a good partner. Improve on yourself and strive to be the best possible you that you can be.
Once you do that, you’ll develop a healthy self esteem and be much more likely to attract partners who are on the same wavelength as you.