Intimacy is so much more than sex!
Our society has made the word Intimate a sexualized term when the definition is “1. closely acquainted; familiar, close 2. Private and personal”.
Our intimate relationships should not consist of simply sex but rather a deep connection of understanding and caring for one another. Sex without intimacy is momentary where sex with intimacy is meaningful and fulfilling.
If you’ve ever longed for a deep and passionate kiss from your significant other you should understand that you are longing for intimacy with your sexual experience.
If you want to have rough and rugged sex and don’t care who it is with, as long as it’s good, then you may not crave intimacy, just a physically satisfying experience. And that’s OK!
It is important to know the difference between the two if you want to achieve what you desire.
True intimacy is between two people who care for one another and have a connection beyond sex.
At the moment you may only want sex but if you find yourself still longing afterward, you may need more than physical interaction.
One problem we as women have faced is that even if we wait for a man to show he is interested in more than sex after he gets what he wants he doesn’t show the same affinity for you he did beforehand.
Many times men are driven by their id, their selfish desires to fulfill their own pleasures.
Not all men are and there are women as well who fall into this category. However, if we are honest with ourselves, if we haven’t been hurt, scarred and misused in the past, if we had intimacy along with our sexual experience from the beginning, 95% of women would not feel the need to satisfy their id.
When we have been put the position of being sexualized and marginalized, the desire to take back control and power can take over our sex lives and we start seeing sex as a power source rather than an intimate connection between two people.
Please know your worth and understand that you should never settle for sex if what you want is intimacy.
Have many conversations to see how you vibe before making a commitment. Listen to the inner voice that tells you y’all are not compatible.
9 times out of 10 that voice will save you heartache and wasted time and energy on someone who is not right for you.