Having a positive feeling about your body can be very challenging. The media presents us with people blessed, baby better than blessed with perfect bodies further enhanced with Photoshop. It can be easy to compare yourself to an unattainable physique and then feel bad about the cards you’ve been dealt.
But call a spade a spade! Let's tell it how it is. A healthy and attractive body can come in many shapes and sizes. You can have a healthy body image regardless of your current situation!
In case no one has told you lately, baby
Learn to love the body you have with these strategies:
Have reasonable expectations. Focus on a weight that feels good for you. You might think you look better at a lower body weight, but if you feel terrible, who cares? Choose the healthiest body weight that also feels good to you.
For me, I don't want to be in those double zero jeans from high school. Look it had gotten so bad that one summer I would eat a whole cast iron skillet of cornbread every day cause Trina said she was thick and fine from the cornbread and the cabbage. Shit did not work AT ALL for me.
Now that I've finally got a curve other than a smile, I'm embracing it! These pounds that motherhood has gifted me are starting to look damn good now that I've started a workout routine, started being more cautious of my eating habits, drinking my water, and minding my own damn business. I'm embracing these service road curves to the point that if I lose too much thigh meat, I'll definitely be putting on my sweetest mom face and snatching a "shiggin nugget" or two from the kids' happy meals.
Focus on what you can do. No one has a body that’s perfect for every activity. You may not be able to get out and go to the gym but you can drop into some squats every time a commercial comes on. 20 pull ups might not be your thing, but jigging out your body and screaming yeahhh when your song come on could prove itself to be an effective workout. I know it's more than a couple of times a week that I turn the music up loud AF and pretend that I'm the biggest drug dealer in the city. Great way to move weight! Get it? *wink*
Identify your best three physical features. Take a look in the mirror and find a few things you like. Write them down. Put this list where you’ll see it often. Remind yourself of these features each day.
Be active. Physical activity feels good on multiple levels. Research shows that those who exercise have a more positive body image than those who don’t. Get moving and notice how much better you feel about yourself. Aye and because I know you're wondering, YES! Sexually active is active too! Now don't take this and go bend and buss it open for any and every, Travis, Darius, and Hakeem but do go with your move.
Avoid comparing yourself to others. Comparing yourself to others usually results in unfair feelings about yourself. Everyone’s body is simply different. No one's body shape is any “better” than another. Baby, if you're shaped like a square you better still hold your head high and walk like you the baddest thing in Bikini Bottom.
Avoid checking your body. It’s common to put all your attention on what you feel is your worst body part. Cut down the number of times you check a specific body part in the mirror each day. You have more important things to do.
Meditation. If you find yourself obsessing about your body, meditation can help to clear your mind and allow you to refocus. A few minutes of meditation can make a big difference.
Try affirmations. Instead of saying negative things to yourself, say something positive instead. Keep positive thoughts in your head and you’ll feel better about your body and yourself.
Be respectful of your body. If you treat your body respectfully, you’ll think more highly of yourself. This means eating healthy foods, getting enough rest, and exercising regularly. Treat your body like it matters. You can’t live without it.
A negative body image can affect people of all ages. While this occurs more commonly in females, males can also suffer from this significant challenge. Remember: everyone deserves to enjoy a healthy body image, including you!
Be appreciative of the body you have. You have every reason to love your body. After all, where would you be without it?
Narcisse, A Grown Ass Black Woman