Look, you don’t even have to tell me. There’s something that women anticipate and desire more than sex, more than money, more than Kofi Siriboe for just one night.
It’s the moment you snatch off that wig and come up out that bra after a long day of appearing to be so put together.
What if you just ditched the wig altogether? What if that was one less thing you had to worry about?
You’re no longer obsessing about getting those baby hairs just right or stressing over which edge control really gon hold it down.
What if you could finally feel free (I mean besides the whole bra situation)?
Two women share their experiences and recall how embarking on this natural hair journey changed their lives.
I honestly had no intentions of cutting my hair off. I tend to be more on the impulsive side.
One day, I was scrolling through Pinterest for a hair cut design. I ran into a picture of a dope ass female with an even dope ass design! I instantly fell in love. See, I already had the tapered look, but I kept my length at the top. As I scrolled through the pictures, I started to fall in love more and more with the “bald” look. That was when I knew that it was time for me to cut my hair off.
Initially, when I went to cut my hair off, I didn’t know it would be such a defining moment in my life. At this time of my life, I had come to the realization that I had lost myself. For months, I had been trying to find myself all over again. It was a struggle for me. The woman before the cut would have never cut her hair off because her husband hates short hair.
When I debuted my new look, he absolutely hated it. Yes, I cannot lie. It hurt my feelings. At that moment, I honestly did not care. All that mattered was MY opinion and I absolutely loved it.
Typically in a relationship, I like to keep my significant other as happy as possible. However this time around, I needed to do this for me. Did he understand that? Probably not. His whole thing was why would I cut my hair if I knew he wouldn’t like it. However, it wasn’t about him! I needed him to understand that.
This decision was ALL about me. It was about what I wanted and most importantly NEEDED! It was me putting myself first for a change. This might sound crazy, but cutting my hair made me learn to love myself, level up, and most importantly, to realize my worth.
February 6th, 2018 was the start of something new and beautiful. And honestly, I’ll never regret it! – Jalen York Nash, a grown ass black woman
I initially started contemplating doing THE BIG CHOP because after having my son, the anesthesia from my c-section along with post-partum stress, took a MAJOR toll on my hair. AND IT SHOWED! I tried to shake it back but it always looked thin to me.
After months of trying to make it work, Watching YouTube videos, and secretly boosting myself up, before I knew it I said to hell with it 1 night & cut it ALL off. (March 19th to be exact) even tho I finally bucked myself up to do it, for some reason I did not want to embrace it. I hid it for weeks with different hairstyles. Ex; wigs, quick weaves, sew-ins. I never wanted anyone to see me without weave!
I guess I wasn’t confident in how I looked with the TWA (Teenie Weenie Afro) cuz I’ve never had a style this short before & everyone was so used to seeing me all glammed up with some kind of “inches!” I didn’t know what kinda reaction I’d get!
Until a few weeks ago, all that went out the door quick! I was so annoyed because I couldn’t lay my wig right & I was in a hurry. Makeup & everything was done but that damn wig just wouldn’t act right. That’s when I looked myself in the mirror and said girl look you still pretty so FCK THAT WIG! I wet it a little to make my lil curls pop and called it a day.
I’m usually pretty confident and all about self-love but I honestly told myself I wasn’t taking any pics that day cuz I thought I looked crazy but while out running a few errands I got SOOO many compliments!! I was so shocked I had to pull out the camera to see what the hype was about. Lol.
The longer I admired it the more it grew on me, then I started thinking to myself, “if you just post a pic, you won’t have to hide it from ANYONE anymore !“ at that moment I told myself I was gonna fully embrace the woman I was becoming! This wasn’t just a haircut for me anymore. It was a NEW ME!
I embraced it FULLY and posted multiple pics and got wayyyy more compliments than I EVER got before! – Myiah Lee, a grown ass black woman
There are many reasons women do a big chop, a few being, hair loss, or damaged hair, or maybe it’s simply that it’s time for a change in their life.
Are you considering the big chop? Or have you already ditched the wig?
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